This Valentine’s Day you have managed to wrangle a date with the lady you have been fawning over for months. Or maybe you want to rekindle the romance in your current relationship. Either way there are some fool proof moves a gentleman can act out to ensure that his date is impressed.
Open The Restaurant Door
As you approach the restaurant move ahead of your date and open door. A standard recommendation we implore you to carry out on a daily basis. It will mean some gentlemanly brownie points before you have really got started.
Take Her Coat
Upon entering the restaurant or bar, offer to take her coat. This could just be a formality before passing to the maître d’ of the establishment but it will make sure she knows that you plan to treat her like the princess she is.
Choose The Wine
Before you left the house you made time to read our guide on ordering wine, because taking control of the wine choices can help reinforce a protective manner to your date. She knows she is in safe hands. Offering some small talk prior to ordering on what she usually drinks can make sure you don’t get it spectacularly wrong.
Nobody wants to hear your life story on the first date! Over confidence is an ugly trait for a gentleman. A lady will always prefer a man who takes the time to listen to her. Ask open ended questions that entice more information out, thus making it easier to get to know her better.
Don’t Talk Whilst Eating
Again, I would hope this is an obvious one. Chew slowly, swallow and then reply to her. This will help with number 4 and taking that time to listen. Whilst also making sure she can’t see the blended steak in your mouth.
Pay For The Meal
I know some folk may get up in arms about this, offering me advice on equality and “why should a man pay for my meal”. But it isn’t about equality for me. I have asked you to dine with me so I would courteously like to pay for it.
Put Her Coat On
Don’t whatever you do, grab it from the maître d’ and sling it at her whilst you start ordering a cab on Uber. Thank the maître d’ for passing it to you, then from behind, help guide her arms through the sleeves then gently drop it onto her shoulders. Here could be a great opportunity to affectionately touch her shoulder or lower back. Maybe offer to adjust her collar so you can have a bit of human interaction.
Part Ways Like A Gentleman
If she is worth the time, then she is worth the wait. Taking the time to get to know her before jumping into bed will make sure you have a genuine connection. which ultimately leads to a better physical relationship. Order her a cab, give her a kiss on the cheek and close the cab door for her. I know your sexual urges might be going overdrive but trust us on this. A gentleman’s exit will be better in the long run.
Don’t forget to tell her you enjoyed spending time with her, and whatever you do don’t forget to follow-up. Even if you have decided she isn’t the one for you, she will respect you for being open and honest rather than deleting her on Facebook and not replying to messages.
Sam Brady is a menswear expert, having worked in or around the field for the past 14 years. He has built up a keen eye for detail when it comes to the production of clothing, and is happy showcasing the craftsmanship of Savile Row and Jermyn St. But he understands the need for an interchangeable modern man’s wardrobe that mixes high street and luxury clothing.