To uncover the true art of finding the right gift this Valentine’s then gentlemen have to first remove the materialistic ideology people have towards gift giving. When you look at Valentine’s Day, Christmas or birthdays we focus on the exchange of physical gifts and not the sentiment or emotional ties we have with the object.
How many times have you started spewing out a reason or justification for purchasing a present before the receiver has had a chance to even remove the wrapping paper. We start apologising for them not liking it, before they have had to register whether they actually like it or not.
Psychologist have found that how you gave gifts among the inner circle of your family growing up can reflect the outward gifts you give to people later in your life. Some families are very open in how they handed out gifts with the children knowing what they were receiving come Christmas day whilst others built up the element of surprise and excitement leading up to the big day. Try to incorporate both elements in your plans maybe the receiver knows her main present but you surprise her with a more sentimental and thoughtful additional present.
What is the message you are trying to communicate through the gift you are going to choose. Take a step back and understand the message first before rushing out, buying a gift and then shoehorning in a sentimental message. Are you trying to convey love, lust, intimacy, thankfulness? Once you understand this then you can start developing a hitlist of items focused on the key narrative as oppose to the price tag.
Ask yourself first, “What do I want to say to this person?” Then move on to “What can I give them that will communicate this?”. This is opposite to the more common “What can I buy them?” and then “What will they think of it?”. Lifehack.org
If you have your message then this dictates your price tag and not the other way around. Some of the most thoughtful gifts a man can give a woman don’t have to cost a fortune because what they deliver is a key concise collection of your thoughts and true emotions.
So Give The Right Gift
After reading these pointers you should now be in a much better position to give the lady in your life the ideal gift this Valentine’s Day. The most important advice I can give you from one gentleman to another is to remember the personal message at all times.
Sam Brady is a menswear expert, having worked in or around the field for the past 14 years. He has built up a keen eye for detail when it comes to the production of clothing, and is happy showcasing the craftsmanship of Savile Row and Jermyn St. But he understands the need for an interchangeable modern man’s wardrobe that mixes high street and luxury clothing.